PEOPLE AND FRIENDSHIP
10 months ago
Sometimes back, I was in my room thinking about life, people and nature. I went ahead to ask myself some questions and something popped up in my mind. Who is a friend and what is the true nature of a friend? Well, I was unable to get any vivid answer at that moment but as time went by, I got the right answers. Here is what Tyler Perry says about people and friends.
“There are three types of people. The first sets of people are the leaf people, the second are branch people and the third are root people.
The LEAF PEOPLE are those who come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life, they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.
The second type of people are the BRANCH PEOPLE. There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through more seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life, it’s possible that you could loose them. Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again, you can’t be angry with them, it’s just who they are.
The final type of people are the ROOT PEOPLE. If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy for you. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm, they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you. Just like a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other peoples lives?”
If you want to have a friend, you must be friendly. The qualities we value most in a friend are two folds.
- Assurance that when things are bad, they will still stick around.
- The knowledge that our imperfection and scars won’t change our commitment.
It is not about the quantity of friends you have but the quality because “heart connection in friendship is greater than blood connection”. Just as Tyler Perry explained above, if you have the ROOT PEOPLE in your life, you might want to call them to appreciate them for being part of your life but the greatest friend any individual can ever have is JESUS.